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Your Beginner-Friendly Guide to Anal Play
So, you’ve tried some toys. A few positions. Maybe even spiced things up with a fantasy or two. Now you’re wondering... what’s next?
If the idea of anal play has been sitting in the back of your mind (pun intended), you're not alone—and you're not weird. It’s totally normal to be curious, and when done right, it can be fun, empowering, and seriously pleasurable.
Whether you’re solo, partnered, or just exploring, here’s your simple, no-stress guide to getting started with anal play.
✅ Start with Curiosity, Not Pressure
There’s no “should” here—just what you want to try. Anal play isn’t just about intercourse. It can be light external stimulation, massage, toys, fingers, or even just the fantasy of it.
💬 If you’re not flying solo, talk to your partner. A simple:
“Hey, I’ve been curious about trying something new—would you be open to exploring it together?” ...goes a long way.
🧼 Let’s Talk Cleanliness (Without Shame)
You don’t need to do anything fancy—just the basics.
Before you begin:
- Use the restroom if needed
- Do a gentle rinse in the shower
- Wash hands (and trim those nails)
- Keep a towel or blanket nearby (psst—our Splash Blanket is perfect)
💡 Some people like to go the extra mile with cleansing sprays or enemas, but for most beginners, a simple rinse is plenty.
💦 Lube Is Not Optional
Unlike the vagina, the anus doesn’t self-lubricate—so lube is your best friend here.
Stick with a silicone-based lube that’s safe for anal play. (We love The Fanny Pack with its added comfort gel for beginners.)
And yes—you want more than you think. Reapply as needed. Slippery = sexy.
🍑 Start Small & Take Your Time
This is not the time for speed. Begin with external touch, light massage, or just gentle pressure around the area.
If you’re ready to explore more:
- Start with a finger (clean, lubed, and slow)
- Try a beginner-friendly plug with a flared base
- Use toys that are made for anal—never insert anything without a base or retrieval loop
Take breaks, breathe deeply, and listen to your body. You’re not trying to “achieve” anything—you’re exploring what feels good.
🧠 Safety & Communication
- Always use toys with a flared base
- Clean your toys before and after each use
- Communicate during play—even simple check-ins like “How does that feel?” go a long way
- And most importantly: If it hurts, stop. Discomfort is never the goal.
🛍 Ready to Try? Here’s What We Recommend:
- The Fanny Pack – silicone-based lubricant with the soothing comfort gel
- Intimate Intrigue – small, pretty, and beginner-approved
- Splash Blanket – protects your space (and your sheets!)
- Toy Cleaner – because hygiene = confidence
💬 Final Thoughts
You don’t need to be experienced, adventurous, or “kinky” to explore anal play—you just need curiosity, communication, and a little prep.
Whether you stop at external touch or fall in love with a new favorite sensation, the backdoor can absolutely be part of a safe, sexy, and satisfying pleasure routine.
Your body, your rules—and no pressure, ever.